There’s one word of advice for improving your relationship and being more comfortable and confident with giving head, Ladies – p r a c t i c e!

Easy to say, right Women? Perhaps, however, not so easy to do.

What gets in the way of your pleasing your guy with some of the best blowjobs he’s ever had?

Maybe you were raised with the idea that a man’s cock is “dirty”? Truth is, if your man’s penis is kept well-washed and regularly cleaned, that part of his body (and all the surrounding parts, too) is probably cleaner than his mouth or his hands.

Perhaps you’ve heard that there are various taboos about mouth-to-cock contact. Here’s the real deal, Ladies – if you’re disease-free and he’s disease-free, you’ve got less chance of having any problems or barriers than you’d have sucking his thumb or big toe.

Or, possibly y’all think that your lover’s cock and balls are just plain funny lookin’ or unattractive or “strange”; and, you just don’t seem to be able to stop giggling or haven’t made “friends” with all that – yet.

Just because we’re talking about “private parts” here doesn’t mean you need to be squeamish about caressing and fondling your lover’s “private parts”.

Think about this for a moment or two. If your end result is to give pleasure to the one you love (or, at least, lust) – where’s the problem?

If you begin to think in these terms, start to “practice” giving him head should begin to make you more comfortable to explore and, consequently, more confident to experiment with what pleases him.

If, however, you’re still in doubt – ask. There are few ways better to know how to give him the blowjob of his life than to take his lead by asking how he likes to be touched, where he likes to be licked, how often he wants to be sucked and kissed.

As you learn what ways and how he likes you to give him better head, you can begin to improvise and surprise him with techniques for giving him great head. Nothing says you care more than sucking more soft or harder when he least expects it – taking the lead and letting him just relax and enjoy the ride. His anticipation of not knowing what you’re going to do next only heightens his sexual arousal and ultimate satisfaction.

It’s your show after that, Woman!

Granted, increasing your comfort level and, thereby, your confidence can go hand-in-hand (or, cock-in-mouth, as it were) –and, there’s no time like today to begin. Practice, practice, practice.

There are as many ways to give head as there are men and women who wish to give and receive a blowjob. (I’ve often wondered about that term “blowjob” – as it’s more a matter of suck and lick, rather than “blow”).

Neverthemore, giving head begins with the mutual desire to share intimate, sensual pleasure. This might seem, somewhat silly to say – but, geewillikers, if that’s not there – who cares?

A first step to giving your boyfriend, husband and/or lover a blowjob is, simply, to ask how they want “it”. Listen – carefully. The mere act of describing and listening, intently, can be erotic and mutually arousing.

While you’re listening, ladies, you might gently caress his face, run a finger tip along his arm, chest or other body part, acknowledging his desires with a simple nod of your head and a smile.

When he has finished his description, take into consideration his stated desires. Begin to trace your mouth along his body as you make his penis tip your, eventual, goal. However, since there are three main parts to his genitalia do not forget his balls and shaft as an essential part of your blowjob.

Remembering his description, if he said he liked/might like the tip of your tongue “there”, be certain to trace that point, gently. If he mentioned he might like a bit of teeth to tease, apply just a little to see how he reacts. Even if he didn’t mention that, you might use your teeth, sparingly, to nibble and taste.

Women, always remember that your goal, in your relationship with your guy, is to enjoy each other and to give and receive mutual pleasure and joy.

Feel his reactions to the tip of your tongue as you trace around his shaft, understand his tension as you suck his balls into your mouth, listen to his sounds of stimulation as you lick around the tip of his penis.

From time to time, looking up to see his reactions can make that eye-to-eye connection that’s extraordinarily intimate and powerful, as you pop the head of his wet cock in your mouth, swirling that tip with your tongue, as you begin to take his shaft deeper into your mouth.

Beginning to suck and lick with more passion and rhythm, caressing his balls with your hands can add just that extra, gentle connection that continues to bring him closer to the brink.

When you, finally, feel he’s at his point of explosive cum, don’t pull away. There are very few men who don’t savor the sight of their woman sucking up all their cum, with (perhaps) a bit of it dribbling off their lips.

If, however, swallowing his cum is not your desire, a satisfying solution might be to, simply, pull back just a bit and let his jizz explode over your face and neck, oozing over your breasts.

“Hey, Girl – how are you?” as I opened the backdoor for my friend. “C’mon in and have that second cup of coffee.”

“Thanks, always appreciated, Woman. Have you got a few minutes? There’s a dilemma my guy and I are having and I could use your advice.”

“Sure, what’s up?”

“Well, you know that we’re newly weds and I know you know that I’ve never had a lot of sexual experience before we got married. I know that you’ve had lots of boyfriends and have been married for several years, with two beautiful children. I think you’re definitely the right female to give me some sage suggestions.”

“I’ll do the best I can. I need to know exactly what’s going on; and, don’t leave out the details – you know how I love those details.”

“It started a few weeks ago. We had just gotten home from a friend’s engagement party. I guess we had had a few drinks too many. We were both very horny. We started kissing and fondling each other as soon as we walked in the house. He nearly tore my clothes off and, I have to admit, I did the same to him. We were burning up to get to each other.

Completely naked on the living room floor, I had my hand on his cock, stroking him softly, at first; then harder and harder, until I felt pre-cum.

We were sizzling. At that point, I thought he was going to penetrate me and fuck me until I couldn’t crawl. Instead, he whispered hoarsely in my ear: ‘Come on baby, suck my cock until I cum in your mouth. I want to see my cum leak out the corner of your mouth. I want you to swallow it.’

I panicked. Believe it or not, in all the time we’ve been together, I’ve never really given him a blowjob. I mean, I’ve kissed his cock a little and licked it; but, never a full-fledged cum-in-your-mouth blowjob. I guess I was afraid. I really wanted to please him, but I felt unsure and uncomfortable that I wouldn’t perform right and couldn’t get him off like he wanted me to do.

Anyway, we ended up making love in the usual way; but, I’m not happy that I didn’t pleasure him the way he wanted. That’s why I thought you could give me some advice.”

“OK, that’s one area I feel I’m an expert. I know I can point you in the right direction – pardon the pun. Here’s what I do:

First, assuming you’re both in the right mood and in the right place, start kissing his cock, very gently at first. Get a lot of good ole’ sticky spit all over his cock. Then, become more aggressive, more hungry with your kisses. After a little bit, turn your kisses into lots of tiny little licks, then long wet ones. Now, place the tip of his cock in your mouth and, with your lips, move his cock very gently in and out. At the same time move the tip of your tongue all over his cock. Keep it wet – always, deliciously very, very wet.

By now you should feel him really responding, growing harder than a rock. He’ll probably start to squirm a little, perhaps begin to make some low, moaning-like sighs. Now – pour it on! Get into it with him. Start really feeling it yourself. Always keep his cock tight in your mouth – whatever else you do now. Again, keep it wet, soaking, slippery, sliding wet.

When you feel him start to cum, keep moving your tongue and move your mouth up and down faster and faster. He should be about to cum. If not, continue.

When he explodes, take in his cum, swallow it, as if you were having that orgasm with him. Sometimes, it takes a little practice to get passed that gag reflex. Once you get used to it, it becomes easier and second nature. I find it very satisfying.

When you feel him coming back to earth, slow down, then very gently and slowing allow his cock to slide from your mouth.

I always make sure a bit of gizz leaks out of the corner of my mouth. I give him a long, lingering tongue kiss. He seems to enjoy that; then, it’s my turn – but, that’s another time.

Well, that’s it! Give it a try, then you can improvise to satisfy your mutual needs. If this doesn’t improve your relationship – come back and share another cup of java.”

“Thanks! I was getting turned on just listening to you. I can’t wait until he’s home to start – practicing.”