There are as many ways to give head as there are men and women who wish to give and receive a blowjob. (I’ve often wondered about that term “blowjob” – as it’s more a matter of suck and lick, rather than “blow”).

Neverthemore, giving head begins with the mutual desire to share intimate, sensual pleasure. This might seem, somewhat silly to say – but, geewillikers, if that’s not there – who cares?

A first step to giving your boyfriend, husband and/or lover a blowjob is, simply, to ask how they want “it”. Listen – carefully. The mere act of describing and listening, intently, can be erotic and mutually arousing.

While you’re listening, ladies, you might gently caress his face, run a finger tip along his arm, chest or other body part, acknowledging his desires with a simple nod of your head and a smile.

When he has finished his description, take into consideration his stated desires. Begin to trace your mouth along his body as you make his penis tip your, eventual, goal. However, since there are three main parts to his genitalia do not forget his balls and shaft as an essential part of your blowjob.

Remembering his description, if he said he liked/might like the tip of your tongue “there”, be certain to trace that point, gently. If he mentioned he might like a bit of teeth to tease, apply just a little to see how he reacts. Even if he didn’t mention that, you might use your teeth, sparingly, to nibble and taste.

Women, always remember that your goal, in your relationship with your guy, is to enjoy each other and to give and receive mutual pleasure and joy.

Feel his reactions to the tip of your tongue as you trace around his shaft, understand his tension as you suck his balls into your mouth, listen to his sounds of stimulation as you lick around the tip of his penis.

From time to time, looking up to see his reactions can make that eye-to-eye connection that’s extraordinarily intimate and powerful, as you pop the head of his wet cock in your mouth, swirling that tip with your tongue, as you begin to take his shaft deeper into your mouth.

Beginning to suck and lick with more passion and rhythm, caressing his balls with your hands can add just that extra, gentle connection that continues to bring him closer to the brink.

When you, finally, feel he’s at his point of explosive cum, don’t pull away. There are very few men who don’t savor the sight of their woman sucking up all their cum, with (perhaps) a bit of it dribbling off their lips.

If, however, swallowing his cum is not your desire, a satisfying solution might be to, simply, pull back just a bit and let his jizz explode over your face and neck, oozing over your breasts.

“Hey, Girl – how are you?” as I opened the backdoor for my friend. “C’mon in and have that second cup of coffee.”

“Thanks, always appreciated, Woman. Have you got a few minutes? There’s a dilemma my guy and I are having and I could use your advice.”

“Sure, what’s up?”

“Well, you know that we’re newly weds and I know you know that I’ve never had a lot of sexual experience before we got married. I know that you’ve had lots of boyfriends and have been married for several years, with two beautiful children. I think you’re definitely the right female to give me some sage suggestions.”

“I’ll do the best I can. I need to know exactly what’s going on; and, don’t leave out the details – you know how I love those details.”

“It started a few weeks ago. We had just gotten home from a friend’s engagement party. I guess we had had a few drinks too many. We were both very horny. We started kissing and fondling each other as soon as we walked in the house. He nearly tore my clothes off and, I have to admit, I did the same to him. We were burning up to get to each other.

Completely naked on the living room floor, I had my hand on his cock, stroking him softly, at first; then harder and harder, until I felt pre-cum.

We were sizzling. At that point, I thought he was going to penetrate me and fuck me until I couldn’t crawl. Instead, he whispered hoarsely in my ear: ‘Come on baby, suck my cock until I cum in your mouth. I want to see my cum leak out the corner of your mouth. I want you to swallow it.’

I panicked. Believe it or not, in all the time we’ve been together, I’ve never really given him a blowjob. I mean, I’ve kissed his cock a little and licked it; but, never a full-fledged cum-in-your-mouth blowjob. I guess I was afraid. I really wanted to please him, but I felt unsure and uncomfortable that I wouldn’t perform right and couldn’t get him off like he wanted me to do.

Anyway, we ended up making love in the usual way; but, I’m not happy that I didn’t pleasure him the way he wanted. That’s why I thought you could give me some advice.”

“OK, that’s one area I feel I’m an expert. I know I can point you in the right direction – pardon the pun. Here’s what I do:

First, assuming you’re both in the right mood and in the right place, start kissing his cock, very gently at first. Get a lot of good ole’ sticky spit all over his cock. Then, become more aggressive, more hungry with your kisses. After a little bit, turn your kisses into lots of tiny little licks, then long wet ones. Now, place the tip of his cock in your mouth and, with your lips, move his cock very gently in and out. At the same time move the tip of your tongue all over his cock. Keep it wet – always, deliciously very, very wet.

By now you should feel him really responding, growing harder than a rock. He’ll probably start to squirm a little, perhaps begin to make some low, moaning-like sighs. Now – pour it on! Get into it with him. Start really feeling it yourself. Always keep his cock tight in your mouth – whatever else you do now. Again, keep it wet, soaking, slippery, sliding wet.

When you feel him start to cum, keep moving your tongue and move your mouth up and down faster and faster. He should be about to cum. If not, continue.

When he explodes, take in his cum, swallow it, as if you were having that orgasm with him. Sometimes, it takes a little practice to get passed that gag reflex. Once you get used to it, it becomes easier and second nature. I find it very satisfying.

When you feel him coming back to earth, slow down, then very gently and slowing allow his cock to slide from your mouth.

I always make sure a bit of gizz leaks out of the corner of my mouth. I give him a long, lingering tongue kiss. He seems to enjoy that; then, it’s my turn – but, that’s another time.

Well, that’s it! Give it a try, then you can improvise to satisfy your mutual needs. If this doesn’t improve your relationship – come back and share another cup of java.”

“Thanks! I was getting turned on just listening to you. I can’t wait until he’s home to start – practicing.”

Ladies, listen up! If you want to improve your relationship with your man, there’s one sure way to seal that deal – learn how to give him really good head.

There are not many men who can resist the titillation of his woman slowly sliding the tip of her tongue along his shaft, using her lips to curl around the head of his hardening cock.

Just thinking about it can make some men shudder in anticipation.

It’s all ‘bout the seduction, Girls.

Begin with initiating some intimate time by sidling up to him when he might not expect it. Ever-so-slowly give him that kind of kiss you know he really likes. Already you have his attention – both heads are workin’!

Now that you have his attention, think of how you enjoy being seduced. For example, do you appreciate being touched gently or is your preference to be “taken”? Think about how he might like it. Put yourself in his shoes – as it were.

From time to time, as you make your way to your ultimate goal, feel along your fella’s body just to make certain that what you’re doing is having the desired effect.

At this point, begin to undress him with your mouth – flicking buttons, seizing his zipper with your teeth. Use your imagination! Your guy, I suggest, will be going bonkers by now – preparing for a drop dead blowjob.

Now might be a good time to slow your pace, once he’s naked; and, begin to lick him, like a lollypop. Begin wherever you want; but, now’s the time to take your time, increasing his anticipation and really let him enjoy as you kiss and lick him in places that might be “triggers” for him.

Eventually, of course, your mouth will find its’ way to his genitals. Caress his balls with you hands and/or mouth. Use your tongue to explore – from the base of his cock to the tip of his head. Swirl your lips over his groin, as you suck and pop his scrotum and penis in and out of your mouth.

Do whatever continues to drive him towards his ultimate blowjob — sometimes sucking, sometimes pumping with your hand while your mouth explores somewhere else.

No one should know how to tease and please your boyfriend, husband or lover better than you – right, Woman? Consequently, giving him the best danged blowjob by giving him the best head (ever) can, not only, improve your relationship. But, think of the turnaround when it’s your turn!